I am not going to use the word Millennials or any other word defining a generation. Instead I am opting to choose to talk to the ones who wear their hearts on their sleeves and post their emotions online.
One day you will encounter someone that would be leaning more towards rationality rather than feelings. That is going to be a challenge for you but at the same time perhaps beneficial, if only you try to be in and understand their perspective.
A lengthy publicly made post on Facebook has been shared to me with a portion of it containing the person’s version as to why the person left the organization. Stating how and what the person felt being part of the team. Which ultimately shed bad light to the subjects of the post. We cannot blame this person entirely for sharing these views and having this version of truth – we all have our versions of truth don’t we? So how do you deal?
There are some lessons to learn here. One perhaps is that if only these things have been settled in the right avenue, things would have been clear through conversations and not be made aware of it from a public post after months of severing ties with the team or organization. Sadly that is not how some people work and live their day. I have seen such act so many times from people I know. No one is perfect, we are always learning – provided we are self-aware. What we can only do is understand and be rational about it. Perhaps people are not conversational enough to merit such clarity or that we would rather post about it online than have real conversations.
If you are one whose emotion leads more than the rationality, assessing the situation would help. It is not about hitting you in the heart and inflicting pain. It is providing you another set of perspective and showing that awareness is key.
Here are some things to ponder on:
- There is a difference in making things personal and being rational, try to see the demarcating factors
- Assess the situation, what, in your own capacity, have you contributed to the situation that has made you feel that way? Is it worth looking into or are you going to fall to the cracks of self-pity?
- Remind your self of the discussions you have had with these people, what have they done for you that was beneficial? Positivity would help you a great mile. Nepotism provides so many layers of issues that you may not be able to distinguish what is good and what is bad anymore.
- Be careful of your public slurs; you will never know how far these posts are going to go. In the age of social media, recruiters are keen on looking into accounts of the applicants to validate how they are and to carve a better viewpoint of you.
- For good measure, if you have a bad experience with a team member or boss/manager or organization, keep it to your self and not post about it publicly/online because one, it is unfair to your subjects who cannot provide their version of truth to your audience and two, you never actually know, they might have thought the same thing about you but have kept it to themselves after having that conversation with you– if they did, out of respect to you and your situation. Do know that burning bridges is a no-no because one way or another someone may need their feedback about your work and how you work. You may think you do not need them now, given the situation but when the time comes we will never truly know.
- Deflecting is an easy thing to do. We can always stir the direction to someone else and perhaps have them bear the blame or the bad image. Be careful of this pitfall.
- There are several truths out there, your version and theirs. Be willing to see, know and appreciate that.
At the end of the day, once you sever the ties, who’s to say you were the only one that was happy about that decision? Perhaps the rest were too and come to think of it – it was probably healthy for everyone. Just do not talk smack about them online because those things will be everywhere and would always reach them.
Work happy despite of challenges that are a plenty.
Oh just in case, if you are a fresh graduate looking into how you could prepare for your interview, here are some tips for you: 5 Tips for Fresh Graduates to Live Through Their First Interview